Inappropriate Use Digital Media

Many years ago on Facebook (in the summer of perhaps my first or second year of teaching), I posted my honest opinions about a girl in my town who has tried to sabotage many relationships -- one being that of a mutual friend's marriage.  I did not include any names, though the "harlot's" friends would have probably seen it and known who I was talking about.

The content of my post was nothing I am ashamed of.  It was the truth and I still hold those same thoughts and beliefs.  I criticized her for being a homewrecker. However, I also stated my hope that one day she could change her ways and settle down with one man; and perhaps she might offer apologies to those she hurt.

Well, I did not let my close friend know I was posting my thoughts.  She called me immediately when she saw it, and I knew then that I had crossed the line.  I asked if she wanted me to take it down, she said yes, and I did.  

I am ashamed that I did not consider how my friend would feel about the post, since it had to do with her life and a very private, sensitive issue.  At the time, I had written out my feelings in reaction to seeing my friend hurting desperately, and apparently I felt the need to make it public.  However, I should have just shared it with my close friend rather than online for many to see (it was only up a few hours, though I know some saw it and could've shared it).  If my friend would've been ok with it, I should have just sent my message directly to the other gal.  

Thankfully, I've learned a lot since then and have become schooled in this appropriate sharing issue.  I can and do use this personal experience (with minimum details) as an example when teaching students digital citizenship skills.  Luckily, our friendship and her marriage have strengthened and endured.